I'm not really trying anything. I don't have time. Focus on other things? I'm not focused on this, just thinking/reflecting out loud here. I know what you mean on the trying hard, that was called Sam. And yet, in an ugly way it was the most rewarding of relationships.
I think being a mommy, divorced or not, puts you into a new category. It is a different place from where we were before the kids came along. We need to start over with our expectations and what we know about relationships and sex. and friendship. Being a responsible adult and mother is the polar opposite of the freedom and romance of life of our late teen and early twenties. I am married and and wonder the same things. Friendships are even harder to cultivate. I have had very few divine moments with girlfriends since I left college. Life is different now. Took me 6 months, passive, to finally get to the point where I feel close with my neighbor--the way it used to be. So rewarding, and hopeful. You can only take so many "formal" friendships. But you were talking about romance... Must get better once the kids are bigger?? I hope...
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I think you will.
I think you need to focus on other things and stuff will hit you over the head when you aren't expecting.
Some of my best relationships happened that way.
Som of my worst from "trying to hard"
--Different Anon
I'm not really trying anything. I don't have time. Focus on other things? I'm not focused on this, just thinking/reflecting out loud here. I know what you mean on the trying hard, that was called Sam. And yet, in an ugly way it was the most rewarding of relationships.
I think being a mommy, divorced or not, puts you into a new category. It is a different place from where we were before the kids came along. We need to start over with our expectations and what we know about relationships and sex. and friendship. Being a responsible adult and mother is the polar opposite of the freedom and romance of life of our late teen and early twenties. I am married and and wonder the same things. Friendships are even harder to cultivate. I have had very few divine moments with girlfriends since I left college. Life is different now. Took me 6 months, passive, to finally get to the point where I feel close with my neighbor--the way it used to be. So rewarding, and hopeful. You can only take so many "formal" friendships. But you were talking about romance... Must get better once the kids are bigger?? I hope...
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